Understand Your Family Communication Style

1. When there's a problem or conflict in the family, how is it typically addressed?

A) We have open discussions where everyone can express their views. B) We tend to avoid discussing it directly to maintain peace. C) One or two dominant members usually decide how it's handled.

2. How often do family members share their deep feelings or emotional struggles with each other?

A) Frequently; we're generally open about our emotions. B) Occasionally, but usually only when things get very difficult. C) Rarely; emotions are often kept private.

3. When making important family decisions, how are they usually made?

A) Through collaborative discussions and mutual agreement. B) Parents or older members usually make the final decision. C) Decisions are often made implicitly, without much verbal discussion.

4. How is affection typically expressed in your family?

A) Both verbally (e.g., "I love you") and physically (hugs, touch). B) More through acts of service or thoughtful gestures than words. C) Affection is rarely expressed directly, either verbally or physically.

5. If you have a different opinion from a family member, how comfortable are you expressing it?

A) Very comfortable; it's accepted to have differing views. B) Somewhat comfortable, but I choose my moments carefully. C) Uncomfortable; I usually keep my differing opinions to myself.

6. How often do family members listen actively without interrupting each other?

A) Most of the time; we prioritize listening. B) Sometimes, but interruptions are common. C) Frequently, interruptions and talking over each other happen often.

7. When someone is upset in the family, what's the typical response from others?

A) We offer comfort, ask what's wrong, and try to help. B) We tend to give them space until they feel better. C) We might ignore it or try to distract them with something else.

8. How easily do family members apologize and forgive each other after disagreements?

A) Easily and genuinely; we value reconciliation. B) It takes time, and sometimes apologies are indirect. C) Rarely; grudges might be held or issues left unresolved.

9. How open are family discussions about sensitive topics (e.g., finances, personal struggles, sex)?

A) Very open; we discuss most topics as needed. B) Somewhat open, but some topics are considered taboo. C) Generally closed off; sensitive topics are avoided.

10. How often do family members compliment or appreciate each other verbally?

A) Regularly; we make an effort to acknowledge each other's efforts. B) Occasionally, mostly for major achievements. C) Rarely; it's not a common practice.

11. When a family member is struggling or needs help, how is support typically offered?

A) Directly and proactively; we offer help without being asked. B) If asked directly, support is usually given. C) It's often expected that individuals cope on their own.

12. How clear and direct is communication regarding expectations or rules in your family?

A) Very clear and direct; expectations are well-defined. B) Often implied or sometimes vague, leading to misunderstandings. C) Mostly unspoken rules that are learned through trial and error.

13. How common are arguments or raised voices when family members disagree?

A) Rare; disagreements are usually handled calmly. B) Sometimes, arguments can get loud but usually resolve. C) Frequent; arguments can be tense and sometimes go unresolved.

14. Do family members feel comfortable expressing anger or frustration openly and constructively?

A) Yes, we can express anger constructively and work through it. B) Often withheld, but might explode if not addressed, or expressed indirectly. C) Generally suppressed or avoided altogether.

15. How much time do family members spend engaging in meaningful conversations (beyond daily logistics)?

A) A significant amount of time; we regularly connect deeply. B) Some time, but it's not a daily occurrence. C) Very little time; conversations are mostly superficial or practical.