Discover Your Relationship Communication Style

1. Your partner consistently leaves dirty dishes in the sink, despite your previous requests. What do you do?

A) "Hey, I've noticed the dishes piling up. Could you please make sure to rinse them and put them in the dishwasher after you're done?" B) You clean the dishes yourself, sighing quietly but not saying anything. C) "Why do you always leave your mess for me to clean up? It's disrespectful!" D) You leave a passive-aggressive note about "fairy dishwashers" or intentionally stack their dishes messily.

2. You have a disagreement with your partner about weekend plans. What's your approach?

A) You clearly state your preference, listen to theirs, and work together to find a compromise. B) You quickly agree to their plans, even if you're not thrilled, to avoid conflict. C) You insist on your plans, interrupting or dismissing their ideas until they give in. D) You reluctantly agree, but then subtly sabotage the plans or complain about them later.

3. Your partner makes a hurtful comment. How do you respond?

A) "When you said that, I felt hurt. Can we talk about it?" B) You withdraw and become quiet, hoping they'll notice something is wrong without you having to say it. C) You immediately snap back with an equally or more hurtful comment. D) You act distant or cold for a few days, giving them the silent treatment until they ask what's wrong.

4. You need your partner's help with a big task. How do you ask?

A) "I could really use your help with X. Would you be able to assist me with Y part, or is there another way you could contribute?" B) You hint strongly about needing help, hoping they'll offer without you having to explicitly ask. C) "You need to help me with this. I can't do it all myself, so get to work." D) You start the task by yourself, making a show of how much work it is, expecting them to feel guilty and offer help.

5. Your partner brings up a sensitive topic that makes you uncomfortable. What's your reaction?

A) "I understand this is important, but I'm not comfortable discussing this right now. Can we revisit it later when I'm more prepared?" B) You try to change the subject or give vague answers, hoping they'll drop it. C) You immediately shut down the conversation, perhaps raising your voice or walking away. D) You agree to talk but then intentionally give short, unhelpful answers, making it difficult for them to continue.

6. You feel unappreciated by your partner. How do you address it?

A) "I've been feeling a bit unappreciated lately. Could we talk about how we show each other appreciation?" B) You withdraw emotionally, doing less for your partner and hoping they'll notice and ask why. C) You accuse them of not caring about you and bring up past grievances. D) You start doing nice things for other people (friends, family) and make sure your partner knows about it, hoping to make them feel guilty.

7. Your partner forgets something important to you. How do you react?

A) "I'm a little disappointed that you forgot about [event/item]. It was important to me." B) You act as if it's fine, but secretly hold a grudge or feel sad about it. C) You explode in anger, making them feel terrible for their oversight. D) You sarcastically say, "Oh, I guess some things just aren't important enough to remember," or subtly bring it up repeatedly.

8. You need personal space or alone time. How do you communicate this?

A) "I love spending time with you, but I need some quiet alone time to recharge today. I'll connect with you later." B) You make excuses to be alone or avoid your partner, hoping they get the hint without you saying anything directly. C) You abruptly tell them to leave you alone or shut yourself off without explanation. D) You become quiet and distant, making your partner feel unwanted until they eventually give you space.

9. Your partner expresses a strong emotion (e.g., sadness, anger). How do you typically respond?

A) You listen actively, validate their feelings, and offer support while maintaining your own boundaries. B) You get uncomfortable and try to cheer them up quickly, or avoid the topic altogether. C) You might dismiss their feelings, tell them to "get over it," or get angry yourself. D) You offer minimal sympathy, perhaps with a sarcastic remark or by subtly implying their feelings are overblown.

10. You want to initiate a new activity or hobby with your partner. How do you propose it?

A) "I've been thinking about trying X, and I'd love to do it with you. What do you think?" B) You casually mention it, hoping they pick up on your interest and suggest doing it together. C) You announce that you're going to do X, and they're coming with you. D) You sign up for the activity yourself, then tell your partner about it and act disappointed if they don't immediately want to join.